Getting your hands and wrists in to your golf swing is related to your grip. I am going to take my glove off as I show you this and it is a good way for you to practice also. When you take your glove off you can see your hands a little better and where the club is resting in your fingers. When I place the left hand on I am going to use two sets of checkpoints. Some checkpoints so I can see where it is resting in my fingers as well as some visual checkpoints that I use when I am looking down. I want the club to rest just below the little pad on my left hand and have the shaft go down all the way to the top knuckle on the index finger. It is as if I was holding my finger in that place and just rotating the hand closed. I want to feel as I do this that my finger is snug inside the knuckles on the left hand. So my left hand grip goes down in my fingers and my right hand is also in my fingers and I am just covering up the left thumb. When I use a visual check point I want to look down and have the line formed by my left thumb and index finger to point up in the direction of my bra strap on my right shoulder. I want to be able to see at least two knuckles on my left hand, maybe two and a half. I want the left hand heel pad to rest on the top of the club, I should not be able to see the top part of my golf club, if I can my top hand is probably not rotated enough over. Notice when I am doing this visual check how I am holding the club up at waist level because I can see it so much better than if I am looking down. When I place my right hand on the golf club again my left thumb disappears. This little thumb pad on the right hand is just resting right on top of my left thumb. The line formed by my right thumb and forefinger is now parallel to my left hand. I always want to make sure that the clubface is staying nice and square as I am putting my grip on. So the check points that I want to use is the fingers of both hands as well as have some visual check points when I bring my club up to waist level. I have a routine I like to use when you are trying to learn your grip and own it. What I like to do is hold the club at waist level with my right hand on the steel part of the club. Then I simply take my left hand and pre-mold it in the position that I just talked about, making sure that I am going to place the club in my fingers. I slip the left hand on the club, check the face and then slide the right hand down from the shaft. Now a great key in doing this grip routine is to make sure that you check it and then check the face and then the moment you lower your hands and set the club down to the ground you do not fidget anymore. Often times people will take their grip at waist level with a good grip and when they lower the club to the ground they will change their grip for comfort. You want to be really careful not to have any fidgeting going on. A good grip is going to help your wrists activate in the golf swing. It is worth a lot of power and distance so it is really important that you have a good grip.